Why you should create your own happiness agreement

My happiness agreement changed my life.

As I’ve discussed in a previous article, happiness is a choice that you can make this year, this month, this week, today, right now.

But what even is happiness?

Well, defining happiness is super subjective. You can ask a hundred people what happiness means to them, and you’ll get a hundred different responses. It’s just one of those things.

And since this is the case, it’s necessary for each of us to do the work to create what happiness means for us, personally.

happiness defined

Everyone else is going to try to tell you their own definition. And you can try to force yourself into whatever size box they’ve created that works for THEM. But I can guarantee it won’t get you to the happiness you crave.

Just for the heck of it, though, I typed in happiness again in Google. And this came up first:


First off, that is ridiculously vague. How can anyone try to create a life of happiness around that definition? Impossible.

Secondly, do you SEE how many results came up for the simple “happiness” search? There’s just no way you can or would even WANT to read through all that to try to apply it in any meaningful way to your life.

So, what I’m NOT going to do is try to define happiness for you. But I will give you the tools to find out what happiness means to you, as well as how to make it your reality.

And a tool I want to share with you is The Happiness Agreement.

Although it hasn’t always been a written document, the idea of it has breathed new life into my dreams, vision, and goals year after year.

Don’t worry, I’m about to tell you all about it, plus give you an opportunity to create your own life-changing happiness agreement.


so, what is the happiness agreement?

Through my years of research on happiness, and as I mentioned before, I’ve uncovered a vast variety of responses to the happiness question that any one person will tell you. I’ve asked.

And I’ve looked up happiness countless times and in countless ways.

I’ve read the blogs. I’ve listened to podcasts. I’ve watched YouTube videos. I’ve been to the conferences and retreats.

Over time, I couldn’t nail down one particular thing. But I’ve uncovered themes around what makes people happy. And, from these themes, I identified several statements that, if followed, can lead to happiness.

But the main thing that has consistently stood out is that happiness is a choice.

It isn’t an easy choice all of the time. But it’s a choice, nonetheless.

The sooner we come to that realization, the sooner we can start to truly pursue the happiness we’re all looking for. Making the choice and real commitment is the foundation for identifying what makes you happy, and pursuing that with reckless abandon.

who is the happiness agreement for?

This happiness agreement is not going to be for everyone.

Dang, I know. Harsh.

But, for real!

The following statements won’t apply to everyone. Not right now.

And that’s okay. I pray you find happiness in a different way.

The Happiness Agreement is for:

  • those that are desperate to see a positive change in their lives.
  • those who have just had enough with the cycle of negativity.
  • those ready to do whatever it takes to see that change.
  • those who are ready to fight with all they have to finally be happy.

It’s not for the one who is still finding comfort in chaos. And It’s not for the one who refuses to take responsibility and to lift the veil that covers their eyes from the truth.

where did this concept come from?

You can read a little bit more in-depth about my story in my about section (for now). But the cliff notes version involves working at a job I was good at but felt absolutely no fulfillment from.

I was so depressed. And I felt like the future was completely hopeless. Nothing would change. Nothing had changed until now, so why would it change in the future?

No matter how hard I tried, I felt like there was no positive forward movement.

Until one fateful day in 2016, I decided I’d had enough. I sat down, took out a pen and paper, and started asking myself questions.

You can access those exact questions by clicking here to download the free guide.

From those questions, I was able to narrow down what exactly I wanted from life, three career paths that would get me there, and the very next step I needed to take. And, after planning and a lot of back and forth on the decision, I quit my job. I packed up and moved back home to California.

Since then, I’ve made it partially to my ultimate purpose and happiness goal, staying at home with my young kids, while making money.

But the work never ends, y’all. The work never ends…

well, how can I make my own happiness agreement?

We’ve come to the best part. You now get to take the first step toward your happiness. You know that you are part of the group that the happiness agreement was created for. And you know that you have to define happiness for yourself.