Welcome to The Happiness Agreement, a website that provides tips, informational tools, and resources to walk in your purpose, kick the negativity once and for all, and finally start to live your best life.
My name is Brit, and I’ve been working out this passionate purpose thang for quite a while now. I’ve gone from graduating with my Bachelor’s in Communications to working in customer service and sales. I went back to school (because I just couldn’t find a fulfilling gig during that Great Recession time), graduated with my Master’s in Clinical Psychology, and ended up working in Substance Abuse.
I had no idea what I had gotten myself into.
Not only had I never considered becoming a Substance Abuse Therapist, I had no experience with it personally or professionally. Needless to say, I struggled in that position. Although my employers assured me I was doing a great job, I just didn’t feel equipped, I didn’t feel connected to the work. It’s so unfortunate that on top of my lack of purpose, crippling depression, and worsening low self-esteem, I was stressed out completely by the fact that I’d built a mountain of debt any entry-level position would cry real tears at the thought of attempting to climb.
I wanted something more than what life was serving, but I had no clue how to get there. I wanted someone to just come save me – there was just no way I was gonna be able to pull myself out of the mess I’d created.
So, I ran from facing my purpose-less life by any means – distracting (and failing) romantic relationships, avoiding church and God, avoiding friends, etc. and so on. This wasn’t new behavior, mind you – this was a cycle I had been reliving year after year. It’s those comfortable, unconstructive cycles we avoid by any means that we have to muster up the strength and courage to face, or they will break us. It almost broke me,
Of course, none of my running away worked. I was still there to face me when it all again came to a stand-still. The cycle of depression would start all over again.
In 2016, I decided to get serious about changing my bleak situation. I was fed up with the cycle of depression, and was through with acting out due to my low self-esteem. That year, I created a vision for what I wanted my year to look like – very unlike the year before it. I decided as a type of experiment that I was going to create a full and purposeful life. To try to figure out what the heck I was supposed to be doing, I did a ton of yoga, meditation, reading, researching. I was seeking for an answer, searching for a vocation that would be suitable for me, looking to build a life I’d want to continue to live, and not want to keep running from.
With the New Year, I quit my therapist job in Alabama, packed up my red, little baby Yaris, and drove with my mom and cat back home to California. Although the journey has not looked exactly as I’d planned, and I’ve had very serious bouts with depression since then, I’ve also made strides that wouldn’t have been possible without that first decision to end the cycle and the crucial action steps made immediately following.
I would be lying if I said I’ve completely won the battle over depression and low self-esteem. But what continues to push me is the day I no longer feel like I have to be checking back over my shoulder, wondering when the shadow monster will come back again to claim my drive and motivation, to snuff out my happiness.
I wanted to start this blog as a type of agreement for myself first, and then as a resource to help other women (and men) who might be facing similar challenges with finding fulfillment and purpose in life. It’s my goal to share with you all the knowledge and experiences I continue to collect along this journey in the hopes it will help you along yours.
Some other facts about me:
- One of my favorite movies is “Pan’s Labyrinth” by Guillermo del Toro. Weird movies are kinda my thing.
- I ALWAYS order the caramel macchiato with whipped cream at Starbucks because I’m literally afraid to try anything else. That stuff is so expensive, and if I hate it, I’ll be pissed I wasted like 20 whole bucks.
- Ever listen to Spotify’s “Brain Food” playlist? It is LIFE.
- I was raised as an only child, but now have two munchkin siblings – an 11-year-old brother and a sis who just entered the teenage world, God help us.
- My fur baby’s name is George, and he’s the best cat in the world.
I’m pumped and ready to connect with you all. So, please browse the site, stop by the resources page, subscribe and share. And thank you so much for being here!
See ya soon,